Frequently Asked Questions
Starting therapy or coaching often brings up practical questions.
Here are answers to a few of the ones I hear most often.
Do I have to know what’s wrong before starting therapy?
Not at all. Many people come to therapy with a clear question, while others simply feel that something in their life isn’t working the way it used to. Therapy is a place where we can slow down together and make sense of what you're experiencing. You don’t need to arrive with the answer — curiosity is enough.
What if I’ve tried therapy before?
Many people have had mixed experiences with therapy. Sometimes the timing wasn’t right, the approach didn’t fit, or the relationship with the therapist wasn’t quite aligned. Therapy is a relational process, and finding the right fit matters. Past experiences can actually give us helpful information about what worked, what didn’t, and what you need now.
What if I’m high-functioning but exhausted?
This is more common than people think. Many individuals appear successful or capable on the outside while quietly carrying a heavy internal load. Therapy can be a space to explore the pressure, responsibility, and emotional labor that often comes with high functioning — and to reconnect with rest, meaning, and a sense of being supported rather than constantly holding everything together alone.
Is erotic work always sexual?
No. Erotic work in therapy is not about sexual activity. The word erotic refers more broadly to vitality, aliveness, desire, creativity, and our capacity to feel deeply connected to ourselves and others. Sometimes this includes conversations about sexuality, intimacy, or relationships, but often it involves reclaiming parts of ourselves that have been silenced, shamed, or disconnected.
Can I do individual work and couples work?
Yes. Some people work with me individually while also participating in couples work with their partner. In these cases we clarify boundaries and goals for each space so that both forms of work remain supportive and ethical.
Is coaching the same as therapy?
Coaching focuses on present-oriented growth, goals, and personal development. Therapy focuses more deeply on mental health, emotional processing, and healing past experiences. If you’re unsure which is right for you, we can talk about it during a consultation.
Crisis Resources
If you are in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health emergency, please contact one of the following resources:
National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call or text 988National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233Trevor Project Lifeline (LGBTQ+)
1-866-488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741
If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.